Tuesday, August 18, 2015

One...amazing...month

First of all. I am profoundly sorry for the "drop off the face of the planet after my babies were born" act that happened. But hopefully I can make a nice long update now and all will be forgiven.

The first few days after Britton and Casey were born are a complete blur. The NICU is very overwhelming. Learning the ins and outs and schedules of the babies feeds and assessments and knowing when the doctors would be there for rounds...it took a lot of getting used to.

On top of that, Trevor and I tried to continue working on a limited basis during the NICU stay in order to push back our leave. What I didn't want was to come home from Texas and have a month to stay home with them. No. Thank. You. So we frequently had our computers with us at their bedside to stay on top of work. That meant, when I wasn't working, and not holding one of our precious little miracles and not doing laundry and running around to get food...writing blog posts seem to slip down my to-do list.

We stayed at Driscoll Children's Hospital for a total of 26 days. Britton was released after 23 days, Casey followed 3 days later. They were on the critical NICU floor for 8 days. The remaining days were in a private room on the NICU continued care floor considered just "feeders and growers". I know many of you have had NICU experiences. Those experiences seem to range from good, bad and scary. We feel incredibly fortunate that our experience was a compete blessing. There was never anything scary or stressful. The doctors and the staff were nothing short of phenomenal. And they simply loved our story. Every single staff member with the hospital knew our story without us sharing it and made sure to talk to us about it. We also were fortunate that the boys constantly were on the upward trend. The are little fighters and just wanted to go home as much as we did. So we never had those moments of major concern or worry. They just really did do that well. So yes. I feel extremely blessed.

We did our best to be a part and active in the majority of the "assessments and feeds" that occurred every 3 hours. The only ones we missed were typically the 2 am and 5 am. They encouraged us to get rest, so typically our day began around 7 when we woke up and ended when we tucked them in after their 11 pm feed. We would go out for lunch and dinner to get out of the hospital. Yes...we gained probably 10-20 pounds while gone and eating out that much. Well...I know for sure I did. Oopsie.  We also tried to see Kelly and her family when we could.

Britton was definitely the overachiever. And as Baby B, we were told that's rare. Typically Baby A is a bit ahead. But Britton was off and running from day one. Off oxygen after only a few days, great respirations and taking full bottles a week before his brother. Which is why he was released a few days ahead. However, once we got that release date, I'm pretty sure a lightbulb went off in Casey's head as if he said, "wait, don't leave me here"! So he caught up quicker than they thought and ended up only 3 days behind.

That day was last Tuesday. And that was a very bittersweet day. To have both of the boys in our care and knowing we were going home was such an amazing feeling. But leaving the doctors and nurses that had cared so well for them, was hard. And nothing could ever put into words how difficult it was to say goodbye to Kelly and her family. They mean so much to us and always will. I only wish we lived closer. She's given us the most beautiful, amazing and perfect gift. We are so in love with these little guys...I knew we would be, but nothing prepares you for how much.

On Tuesday evening we began our journey home. We left Rockport and drove to Austin. We wanted to start small on the trip and see how everyone did. The next day we had breakfast with our attorney that helped us through the surrogacy and made everything seamless. Was so thrilled to get to meet her in person. Then we drove 3 hours to Dallas. We had family and friends there that we wanted to see and that gave us a full afternoon/evening to spend with all of them. And...guess who was gracious enough to open her home to us!?! Caroline and her husband, Colby were so kind and I loved getting to know them even more than I felt like I already do through her blog. And yes, she is just as sweet in person as you would imagine she is!



The next morning we got up super early and drove to Rogers, Arkansas. Trevor's 94 year old grandfather lives there and we thought it important that he meet his grandsons. We don't get there that often and he can't travel. It was such a great day. Definitely a highlight. On Friday we again left early knowing we were 8.5 hours from home. That does not include the time to stop for feedings. We thought we'd just drive and see how they do. Well, they did great and we made it home by 8 pm! My good friends had had our home cleaned and our fridge and pantry stocked. What a perfect gift after being gone for 32 days! Our cats didn't even blink and eye (well, barely) at the fact that we brought home two tiny humans. I think we could have brought a pack of 70 pound dogs home and they wouldn't have cared as long as it meant we were home and home to stay!

The great thing is, these boys are GREAT babies. We've been able to stay on the NICU schedule that they were on, we typically wake them for their feeds and aren't huge criers. I know this may all change, and probably will from time to time, but for a 4 day road trip and our first few days home, their parents have been eternally grateful to them!

As for an update on me, yesterday I was 20 weeks. So Britton and Casey's little sister is cruising right along. I had an OB appointment in Texas a few weeks ago with an u/s and she looks great!

My heart can barely stand it. I still can't believe how much life has changed in a year's time, but I know I am thankful beyond words for all of my miracles.

I'll leave this post for now with lots and lots of pictures. Told you I'd make the delay worth it!
(Sorry for any typos...I literally typed this with a baby on my chest)

Only a few days old

You know, Casey just hanging out in the NICU

Meet our funny guy, Britton

Britton milk drunk

Kelly's first time holding Britton and Casey

Britton and Casey

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My favorite moments are cuddling with these two

Double kangaroo care

Our very first family photo

Kelly holding both babies

Kelly's oldest daughter, Sydnee

Kelly's middle daughter, Ella

Kelly's youngest children, Taylor and Nicholas

Trevor finally holding both babies

Britton "home" with us

 Just waiting on this guy

 Their first photo together out of the hospital

How we slept on the road home...Trevor and I each got about a foot on each side

First time in their beds at home

First nap time together

Nap time fun at home

More nap time 

And more naps side-by-side

On Sunday, August 16th, we were a month old!! 

I promise, I will not be away for so long again!!! 

24 comments:

  1. I love, love your great journey! So excited that everyone is going great and the boys are home safe. They are so adorable, enjoy this precious time! :-)

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  2. YAY!!! I've been thinking about you so much and I know it's been crazy, so I stalk for little bits I find on FB or BBC or anywhere else I see something. Been thinking about baby girl too and I'm glad to hear she's doing amazing as well. What a beautiful family you have and the grand finale will be here soon (not too soon) too. So happy for you guys and I love the pics. CONGRATS!

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  3. Your boys are absolutely gorgeous! Thank you for sharing your stories and pictures!

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  4. Wow. What sweet boys. So very happy for you.

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  5. Wow this is amazing! They are just precious and I can't believe you are already 20 weeks!! Congrats!

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  6. So cute, I can barely stand it :)

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  7. My heart swells! Swoon! Gorgeous! I'm so incredibly happy for you! Welcome home boys!

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  8. SO beyond happy that you're all home and healthy! What a loooong road to your two miracles, both in the wait through infertility and then the NICU journey. Glad the boys are being good for you and staying on their schedule. Love you, sweet friend. Enjoy!

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  9. They ARE SO CUTE!!! SO happy for you!!!

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  10. So, so happy for you and your family.

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  11. Ahh, so happy you are all home safe and sound. They are so cute and motherhood looks so good on you. Love to see you so happy and I hope you are feeling great (and sleeping!).

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  12. Oh my goodness, are they ever cute!!! That's going to be one very bustling, loud and messy home in the future with 3 little ones running around and you will LOVE every minute of it! Congratulations:)

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  13. Ok!!! One of my favorite posts EVER! I loved looking at every picture and of course just makes me so happy that they are doing so well - just as cute as can be!!! I'm sure baby sister will be just as cute!

    You will never know how much it meant to us that you stayed with us! Just filled me heart to the top! Thanks for blessing me!!!

    Love you!

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  14. They are adorable!! So happy for you!! Thank you for sharing your story and enjoy every minute with these two - I can't wait to hear stories when your girl is around them too!

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  15. What a beautiful story and I am in love with your redemption. So happy for your family of FIVE!

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  16. I am so happy for you. I love all the pictures and the boys look precious. I love how your little girl is getting to take part in all of this too from in the womb. When you do double kangaroo time you have three babies right there! I am so happy for you. I know you've been waiting years for this and I am so glad you now have such an amazing family.

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  17. Awwwww, loving all of these pictures! I love their side by side naps! They are absolutely precious!!! XO

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  18. I think back to how at one point you considered changing the title of your blog, but now JOURNEY truly describes your story so well. It's so exciting all the people you visited along the way, and you ended up with a baby bump in the end (which looks great by the way) I am so amazed that you made the journey home with two newborns as well!

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  19. Oh I just love this post so much! Suzanne, your boys are just darling. And I can't believe you're already 20 weeks!

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  20. Gah! I LOVE this update. Your boys are beautiful and amazing. I'm so happy that you and T have them home with you and baby girl is doing well. Can't wait to meet those three when they are all together. Hugs!

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