Thursday, January 17, 2019

Major Update


As I posted back in 2017, we made the decision to donate our remaining 3 embryos that were still frozen at our clinic in Colorado. We went through so much, and trust me, that's a pretty mild statement, and couldn't imagine destroying them or "donating them to research". We wanted them to have a chance at life. Problem is, we were and are done having children. Having three amazing kids all 3 years old, is amazing, hard, filled with joy and also challenges. We are at peace and completely in love with our family of five.

Our family is what it is because of some very special people. Our egg donor. Our amazing, surrogate, Kelly. Doctors and nurses, literally across the country. So how could we not pay some of that forward? It honestly, wasn't a difficult decision for us. In the fall of 2017, we officially donated our embryos to our clinic in hopes that someone else that was dreaming as hard as we did for their own miracle, could potentially have that opportunity, because of us.

This is completely anonymous. Apparently, we will never know anything about the family or children that come from these embryos. Even though they will be 100% biological siblings to our boys and biological children to my husband, we knew that in our heart, this was still absolutely what we wanted and needed to do.

Luckily, our clinic does allow us to find out if the embryos are adopted, and if they are successful. Last week, I got that answer.

While one remains on ice and is awaiting adoption. Two were transferred to a patient, and they both stuck. And even more amazing...one split. This person or couple, now has triplets. Just like our miracles turned into three. So has theirs.

People have asked how we feel about this. We feel joy. Pure joy. And maybe a little bit of compassion for these parents that are about to have their world rocked by three at once! Because let me tell you, we know, it's going to be amazing chaos. And exhausting chaos. In the best possible way. We have our children. We are blessed by three of the sweetest, most hilarious little humans we could ever wish for. They are ours. And together, we are perfect, just the way we are.

I hope those triplets have a full and happy life. I'm guessing their parents will, that's for sure, albeit they are going to be really tired for the foreseeable future.

Oh, and we did snicker at the thought "what if we'd have transferred the one that split"? Geez. Never mind, on second thought lets not think of that.

Instead, lets focus on what's right here, right now, in my heart and in my arms. And all mine.






7 comments:

  1. This is so amazing! I had goosebumps reading this. To find out that 2 of your embryos were transferred and one of them split, and now they are 3 children....it is amazing.

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  2. I love this update! I am so happy that you found your way to that decision... I know so many people who could only become parents via embryo adoption and yet it is rare. thank you for making this decision. we also donated our remaining CCRM embryos, but to a known recipient couple so there are updates and even this route is amazing... so glad we made this decision. are the triplets born yet or are they gestating? I also immediately thought about what would have happened if you guys had transferred that splitting embryo?! amazing to think about but the fact is that they all wound up in the right place :) thank you for updating!

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  3. I also wanted to add that while our embryo donation was a known recipient couple, and we are planning on telling the genetic siblings of each other's existences, there may be a possibility that your genetic siblings might find out about one another in the future thru services like 23&me, so just to be aware of that scenario being out there- your children might be able to know that these genetic siblings are out there anonymously, but there may be a day in the near or far, far future that they or their children or grandchildren find one another thru a genetic search.
    its something to think about- so it would not come out as some secret that you were keeping from them. what are your thoughts about this? its a very complex issue, and because I know that telling my own children is inevitable, I do worry that they will judge us for what we did, or feel betrayed or confused, etc.

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  6. My husband and I went through infertility for 10 years. We are forever grateful to a couple for donating anonymously. We have a beautiful daughter and I am currently 7 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child. Thank you for choosing to donate.

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