Monday, October 27, 2014

My Surrogate is her Egg Donor


This is going to be my most favorite post ever. It doesn't matter what's to come...this one post, is how it all began.

I've wanted to share this story for five months now...but I needed it to be official. And now it is.

Something that has been on my mind often these past several months is how fortunate we are when certain individuals come into our world at just the right moment. It's those special people that touch your soul and really make a difference. Friends that you know without a doubt will be part of your life, well...forever.

Back in January, I shared that I got to meet Jessah (and her husband) for lunch in Colorado. We were both at CCRM for various treatments. She was there for her last retrieval and I was there for my hysteroscopy to attempt to treat my Asherman's Syndrome. Neither of those procedures worked out as we hoped and I've realized that even though they didn't, maybe it's because we were destined for something so much bigger. Fate lead us together in a truly serendipitous moment that day in Denver.

And that day I met a friend that I will cherish and love for so many years to come.



I'm so thrilled that she's finally, after so many years, expecting her Baby Sunshine. She is going to be such a loving and fantastic mother...and A is going to be a great father. And because of a very special circumstance and very loving woman...Jessah and I are well on our way to having our dreams come true.

That's right. I said woman. That's what I'm so thrilled to share. My very special surrogate...is also Jessah's egg donor.

It's K...K is Kelly.



During their communication, K expressed her wishes to become a gestational carrier. She's already helped Jessah reach her dreams of becoming a mother...and two other women before her through egg donation. Like Jessah's story, we came to meet K in a less traditional way..."outside the box" as she mentioned in her post. I met her because Jessah knew in her heart that this could be a match. Because Jessah loved and cared about me enough, as I was learning that I couldn't carry a child, that she gave me a light in the dark.

It's difficult enough to come to the realization that I will never experience pregnancy. To be faced with the cost of surrogacy when we had already gone through so many infertility treatments, can be overwhelming to say the least. A huge part of the surrogacy costs are the agency fees. Fees for finding and being matched with a surrogate. For us, the difference in having an agency vs. not having an agency made using a gestational carrier within reach.

Jessah has bonded us forever because of her actions. Our children will always be connected through their stories. I can't wait for the day that they can play together and learn the beautiful story of how much they were wanted and loved by so many...even before they were here.  How intertwined their lives were before they were born. I am so thankful for that day in January. I'm so thankful for this blog and for all the women that I've met (even if not actually in person) and have supported me these almost four years. Where would I be without you? Without Jessah? Without K?

Jessah made this happen for us. There is no way to ever express in words how much that means to me. January 9, 2014...very likely, changed my life.

And especially to Kelly, who I've grown to care about so much in these past few months and not just as my surrogate, but as my friend. Who I hope in the coming months, will lovingly, graciously and kindly carry our child for us. I want her to know that because of this gift, I will be carrying her and her family in my heart for the rest of my life.

I look forward to sharing so many moments, big and small with her...with Jessah and with all of you. This is my hope and my dream. For the first time in so long, it feels so close.

Whatever I did to deserve Jessah and Kelly in my life...I couldn't be happier or more grateful.

Our very first meeting (July 18, 2014)


Agreements signed!! (October 25, 2014)
Transfer in December/January







37 comments:

  1. Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!! My dear friend!!! I have tears in my eyes. Life works in the most beautiful ways. XOXO

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  2. Yes! Such a big, beautiful story! So much bigger than I could have ever dreamed or imagined for you ladies! So thankful that you were both willing to jump with both feet in the moment came! Congratulations to you and Trevor! What a big, big day!

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  3. This. Is. Awesome.

    Keeping you all in my thoughts as you embark on this amazing new journey.

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  4. I love reading this post! I've read it like five thousand times. K is the most amazing human being and I'm so happy that y'all are moving forward with hope in your hearts. Love you and so glad I could be a part of your story!!!

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  5. I could read this a thousand times and never stop grinning! In addition to wanting to give Kelly a big hug, the same goes for Jessah (and you too, of course!). xoxo

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  6. This story brings tears to my eyes - tears of joy. What an amazing story and Kelly is just such a wonderful woman. Look at her making people's dreams come true left and right. Stories like this give me hope, both as it relates to fertility and motherhood and just about greater good in the world. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. Oh wow! Kelly is so so amazing! I already thought so when Jessah shared her story about her, but what an angel she is to help so many women out!!! Please give her a hug for me!! I love this story, and yes it is so real and close for you now!!! I am so excited for you!!! I can't wait!

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  8. I am crying over how beautiful this story is. So much sacrifice, trust and commitment. It's crazy how science has opened the doors for humanity to give to each other in these new ways. May we all learn from beautiful people like K.

    Oh, what a story your baby will have!

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  9. Wow this is such an amazing story!!! Kelly is such a beyond wonderful and selfless woman!!

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  10. Oh. My . Gosh. I don't even have words. What an amazing friendship - what an amazing woman Kelly is. I am SO SO happy for both you and Jessah. This story brings so much hope to this community. Thank you for sharing and I can't wait to see what fate has in store in you!

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  11. What an amazing story! I'm so happy for the both of you and the amazing gifts you have received from Kelly. She truly is an angel!

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  12. It is so truly amazing the way things work out sometimes. I can say without a doubt that Kelly is such a selfless person and has given you and Jessah the most precious gifts ever.

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  13. Fate, serendipity.... Those two big, big words are full of AMAZING moments for you (and for Jessah). They are full of love, of caring, of kindness, and of heart. You are both so incredibly blessed already. I'm teary just thinking about just how wonderful life, and the people who come into your life, can be. LOVE this and LOVE you girls!!

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  14. Love.Love.Love.Love!! I saw this on facebook and couldn't wait to read!!! This whole post just makes my week/month/year! So neat to see how God orchestrated the whole thing for all 3 of you! Couldn't be more excited for what the future holds!!!! Doing the happy dance down in Dallas! WAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

    So sweet!!!!! I love that you got to meet K already too! And, the papers are signed! whoop!!!

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  15. Love this! What an amazing story and opportunity. Praying for you as you continue down this path.

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  16. very excited for you...
    we loved our GC and her husband, her kids, it was a perfect match, and you will realize this even more as time goes on...

    so many CCRM GC stories! very happy things are moving forward now... keep hope alive :)

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  17. goosebumps. One of my favorite posts (among all the infertility blogs) to ever read! Can not wait to follow along for your happy ending :)

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  18. Such an amazing story. K and Jessah are both wonderful, selfless women who are helping yout reach ur dream.

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  19. Ahhhh, so many happy tears! What an amazing story! I love this soooo much. Jessah is such a great person, with a huge heart! And, K!!!! She is just amazing, and very inspiring.

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  20. I have now read your blog twice and cried my eyes out both times. The way this has fallen into place is nothing short of heaven sent. I am soooooooo excited for you to become a momma!!!! 2015 is going to be amazing!

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  21. Such an amazing story! I love this so much that 3 women can come together like this to make dreams comes true is nothing short of miraculous! Congrats on signing your agreements. I'll be reading all the way and cheering you on.

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  22. I love this!!! So glad I found your blog. We are using a GS too and I am praying our timeline will be about the same as well. xoxo

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  23. OMG this is so amazing!! I remember reading about when you and Jessah met in person. This all has to be fate, what a great story! I'm sure you two will be lifelong friends :)

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  24. Sooo glad to see these dreams come true!!! What an amazing woman!! Congrats again!!

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  25. Just as I wrote you before....beyond excited an happy for you ALL!!! Our stories are so very similar(like kind of crazy similar) that you are the definition of Hope and to NEVER give up! You, Jessah, and Kelly...just AMAZING women and I cannot wait to read about the happy ending to your story...xoxo

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  26. Such an amazing, incredible story!! K is hero, and I'm so happy for all of you.

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  27. This is such beautiful, wonderful news!! I'm so happy for this news. Hugs!

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  28. Suzanne, I can't tell you how happy these posts make me. Literally tears in my eyes as I read them! It's so funny how one little thing can lead to something so big! I can't wait to follow your journey to motherhood. :D

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  29. What a beautiful story!! This is so inspiring! Congratulations to all of you!! xo

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  30. This is such an awesome story! I'm so very happy for you!! And, needless to say, very excited to see how things will move on.

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  31. I'm just catching up on all of this, and it's so exciting!! Can't wait for more updates! Congrats to all of you!

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  32. This is great news! Congrats
    Katie www.mommy-dreaming@blogspot.com

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  33. Awesome story! She is truly an angel to both you and Jessah! I hope that you can get through this little hiccup with the anti bodies! Fingers are crossed for you!

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