I left off with our crap OB that can pretty much kiss my ass. (Am I allowed to say that!? Wait, it's my blog...yes, I am)
The doctor that we were referred to that was really spoken highly of is Dr. Bradford. He's supportive of vaginal deliveries AND he's very experienced in breech deliveries. What's that mean? It means where a lot of twins that are both head down at delivery and one is delivered vaginally, but then the other starts to flip around because of all the room that it's suddenly acquired...quite a few doctors will automatically do a c-section to get Baby B out. When in actuality, a baby born breech after Baby A was just delivered vaginally, is possible. Dr. Bradford is experienced in this.
However, he still plans on delivering in the OR with an epidural already in place. Because as we all know, birth plans can go right out the window. If BOTH babies are breech, then a vaginal delivery most likely can't happen.
Let me back up. A few days after our appointment with the asshat doctor, K called Dr. B's office to try and schedule an appointment. The front desk told her it would be the end of March before he could see her. Well by the end of March she'd be almost 18 weeks pregnant! So that was discouraging.
However, by that Monday, the office had called her back and after speaking with the doctor, he wanted to see her that same week. So last Friday, she met Dr. B.
She loved him. Said he was "awesomeness". He went through all the scenarios that would mean a c-section, and what didn't. He was absolutely supportive of her wishes to try for a vaginal delivery. And it gets better. He also as agreed that T and I will both be in the OR/delivery room for the birth.
He talked to her for an hour. An hour! On a Friday afternoon! He told her how awesome he considers surrogates. He was excited for her and for us. I knew someone would be and we finally found him. This is our doctor.
He also did a free ultrasound so they could take a look at the babies. They looked great! Heart rates were 166 and 178. And get this...the doctor could tell the gender!
He said he could almost guarantee it. That he's almost certain. That he'll confirm 100% on March 20th at her 16 week appointment.
So unless you follow my blog name on Instagram...sorry, you'll have to wait until then to know. :) That's only due to my blog being very open to friends and family outside of the infertility community.
The past few weeks have made me realize that this is exactly how it was supposed to be for me. For us. This is how we were always supposed to have our family. There's no doubts, no regrets and no sorrow that my body failed me. There's just happy. Because this woman and her family were absolutely meant to be in our world for this reason.